A Different Kind of Christmas . . .

By now, many of you know that I lost my husband recently–unexpectedly– with so many hopes and dreams and life on the horizon.

But tomorrow is not promised, we know this.

My two {adult} children and I are navigating the unknown territory of the holidays after a loss and dreading every . . .


phone call

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All of those things are a reminder of the realization that we are facing our first Christmas without husband, father, {whole} family. Laughter and joy are difficult, if even possible right now. We grieve, not for him, but for ourselves. We know that he is with God but we are left here to wait and to mourn. And to keep moving even though it hurts to even breathe.

And yet, we believe there is hope. And the very occasion of Christmas is the promise that we will be together again because God sent his son as our Saviour, born on that day.

A friend sent this video to me and it made me realize that it will never be the same for us–it will be different, but it will still be Christmas. 

So Christmas will come – we cannot stop it, nor should we want to. It will just be different.  May your family be FULL of abundant blessings and love on Christmas and throughout the coming year.

I wish you peace,


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  1. Mary W

    It has been 23 years since I had my first Christmas without my husband – my childhood sweetheart that I ran away to marry in 1964, the month after I graduated high school. With no illness or signs, he died peacefully in his sleep from a silent heart attack. After watching your video, I cried again, it was so meaningful and real, and perfect. I cried for all he has missed, I cried for you just beginning the long, painful journey, and I cried for my son and daughter that miss his so much still. I also cried tears of joy for all that we have become because of him. I hear his laughter and story telling in my daughter and grandson, I watch how he always teased little kids while watching my son play with my granddaughter. I hear his voice when listening to his brother talk, I feel his presence when my son talks about racing. This video was a peaceful way to celebrate his life and remember he is still here with us. Thank you, Lorraine, for a wonderful present in this video share. You have been in my prayers each night and I know you will become even stronger due to the journey you are on now. Peace and love, Mary (I know you don’t post these comments but still want you to know how much you are cared for, anyway.)

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    You have been in my thoughts! Holidays are so hard when we lose ones we loved so!

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    I’m so sorry, Lorraine. I’m holding you and your family in my heart and in my prayers.


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    I’m so sorry, Lorraine. I’m holding you and your family in my heart and in my prayers.


    1. Lorraine Bell

      Thank you Pattie – I feel as if I’m being lifted by all the wonderful outreach from this amazing community!

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